Your husband might not want to hear what you have to say.
Is your husband unemployed and hasn't found a new job? Is he moping around the house or engaging in unproductive activities? Maybe his unemployment ran out, or perhaps he's gone to interviews and still doesn't have a new job. You tell him he needs a job. Losing a job, even in challenging economic times, is a blow to one's self-confidence. The longer one is out of work, the more damaging it is to one's self confidence. However, there are steps you can take to encourage him to get a job.
Instructions
1. You might feel your husband is spending a lot of time on unproductive activities.
Don't badger him. Identify with him. Tell him you'd feel the same way. As frustrating as it is for the working spouse to support the family without the other spouse, constantly needling him to find a job will make things worse.
2. Training for new opportunities.
Have him speak with a career counselor or a job coach. Identify the kinds of jobs he is qualified for. Take a look at the current market for those jobs. Does he need to be trained for a new job? If so, identify programs or schools he can attend to get the skills he needs for a new job.
3. Isolation can lead to unproductive behavior, which is counterproductive to job hunting.
Attend social functions together. If you and he are involved in church, school, scouting, civic or recreational groups, continue to attend these functions regularly. The more socially involved people are, the less likely they are to become depressed and to withdraw from society. Most people who have given up looking for a job are depressed and withdrawn. This is not a good sign, and puts them and the family at risk for more serious consequences.
4. Volunteering helps keep people socially active.
Identify job opportunities -- both paid and volunteer. Encourage him to volunteer for something, anything, while he is continuing to look for a job. People in volunteer activities are more likely to feel good about themselves than people who are isolated and lonely. Volunteering helps people feel more proactive. Sometimes volunteer activities become paid jobs.
5. Seek counseling. Not only for him, but for both of you. It is important that lines of communication between you and your husband remain open without anger or hard feelings.
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